feat(serve): graceful shutdown + connection registry (v0.2 chunk 2)

Shutdown is drain-then-force-stop: flag.store(true) -> sup_h.join() (the
no-more-accepts barrier) -> cast BeginDrain -> poll ConnCount every 50ms
until 0 or drain_timeout; past the deadline each tick casts ForceStopConns
and re-sweeps, so conns that registered after the deadline are still
caught.

Listener shutdown is redesigned vs chunk 1: Restart::Permanent ->
Transient, wait-failure return -> panic (Transient restarts it), and a
shared Arc<AtomicBool> flag checked at loop top with a 250ms
wait_readable_timeout tick instead of request_stop — no request_stop on
the supervisor or listeners anywhere. Historical note: the redesign was
originally forced by smarm's then-lossy stop against QUEUED actors (fixed
upstream in 7bab4d2); it is kept because flag-based listener shutdown is
simpler and stop-semantics-free.

Conns self-register with the registry (ConnStarted from the conn actor,
not a listener cast): per-sender FIFO ordering is the only thing that
prevents ConnEnded overtaking ConnStarted; see conn_registry module docs.

conn_actor: in the catch_unwind(pipeline.run) Err branch,
smarm::preempt::check_cancelled() runs BEFORE composing the 500 — smarm's
stop is an undowncastable panic_any(StopSentinel), so the catch_unwind
would otherwise swallow a stop and 500-and-keep-running. The stop flag is
persistent, so check_cancelled re-raises cleanly.

Handle.shutdown() wakes the root via a 100ms try_recv poll
(SHUTDOWN_POLL): a cross-thread Sender::send's unpark is a
try_with_runtime no-op without runtime TLS on the sending thread (still
true on smarm 8e5b754; cross-thread unpark is a recorded smarm roadmap
candidate — this poll dies with it).

Two smarm bugs were found during this chunk and fixed upstream: lossy
stop against QUEUED actors (7bab4d2) and the terminal-wake shutdown
stall/hang (eddf3fe); post-mortem in artefact smarm-bug-terminal-wake.md.

src/lib.rs

@@ -24,10 +24,13 @@ pub mod router;
 pub mod parser;
 pub mod net;
 pub mod conn_actor;
+pub mod conn_registry;
 pub mod serve;
 
 // Re-exports — what most users want at the crate root.
 pub use conn::{Assigns, Body, Conn, HeaderMap, HttpVersion, Method, Params, RespBody};
 pub use plug::{Next, Pipeline, Plug};
 pub use router::Router;
-pub use serve::{serve, serve_with, Config};
+pub use serve::{
+    serve, serve_with, serve_with_shutdown, shutdown_handle, Config, Handle, ShutdownSignal,
+};