feat(gen_server,gen_statem): lifetime is the actor's — refs are addresses; inline named run

Root cause behind the "pin the endpoint" gotcha and the trapping-wrapper
pattern: a gen_server had two lifetime authorities — its refs (last one
dropped → inbox closes → exit) and, when supervised, its supervisor. OTP has
one: a process lives until it stops, is shut down, or is killed; a pid is an
address. Root exit now shutting down every forest root removes the reason the
ref-governed idiom existed (a forgotten server no longer hangs the run), so
adopt the one rule:

- The server/machine loop holds one inbox sender for its life; the inbox
  never closes. GenServerRef / GenStatemRef are addresses. Explicit close is
  `shutdown()`; a forgotten one is swept at root exit.
- `NamedGenServerBuilder::run()` / `gen_statem::run_named(name, m)` run the
  loop inline as the current actor: a server is a direct ChildSpec child,
  gets the supervisor's shutdown as handle_shutdown / a shutdown row, re-binds
  its name on restart, and is addressed by name. The wrapper in
  examples/graceful_shutdown.rs is gone.
- gen_statem gains GenStatemName + whereis_machine/send/call/shutdown by name
  (parity with gen_server); the macro gets `Sm::new`.
- Root-exit sweep records `Event::RootSweep { target, trapping }` under
  smarm-trace ("root_sweep shutdown|stopped"): unsupervised leftovers are
  visible rather than silently owned-by-refs.
- Named start() name-clash path stops the spawned actor instead of relying
  on ref drop.

Tests: tests/gen_server_lifetime.rs, tests/gen_statem_lifetime.rs,
tests/root_sweep_trace.rs (feature-gated); three existing tests that used
drop-closes-inbox now use shutdown(). Docs/README/ROADMAP/Deep Dive updated.

tests/gen_server_shutdown.rs

@@ -196,12 +196,18 @@ fn linked_peer_death_reaches_handle_exit() {
         r.cast(Cast::Note("still-serving")).unwrap();
         sleep(Duration::from_millis(20));
         a.store(true, Ordering::SeqCst);
-        let mon = monitor(r.pid());
-        drop(r); // inbox closes → clean exit
-        let _ = mon.rx.recv(); // don't let the root-exit sweep race terminate
+        r.shutdown(); // graceful; waits for terminate
     });
     assert!(alive.load(Ordering::SeqCst));
-    assert_eq!(log.get(), vec!["handle_exit", "still-serving", "terminate"]);
+    assert_eq!(
+        log.get(),
+        vec![
+            "handle_exit",
+            "still-serving",
+            "handle_shutdown",
+            "terminate"
+        ]
+    );
 }
 
 #[test]