feat(gen_server,gen_statem): lifetime is the actor's — refs are addresses; inline named run

Root cause behind the "pin the endpoint" gotcha and the trapping-wrapper
pattern: a gen_server had two lifetime authorities — its refs (last one
dropped → inbox closes → exit) and, when supervised, its supervisor. OTP has
one: a process lives until it stops, is shut down, or is killed; a pid is an
address. Root exit now shutting down every forest root removes the reason the
ref-governed idiom existed (a forgotten server no longer hangs the run), so
adopt the one rule:

- The server/machine loop holds one inbox sender for its life; the inbox
  never closes. GenServerRef / GenStatemRef are addresses. Explicit close is
  `shutdown()`; a forgotten one is swept at root exit.
- `NamedGenServerBuilder::run()` / `gen_statem::run_named(name, m)` run the
  loop inline as the current actor: a server is a direct ChildSpec child,
  gets the supervisor's shutdown as handle_shutdown / a shutdown row, re-binds
  its name on restart, and is addressed by name. The wrapper in
  examples/graceful_shutdown.rs is gone.
- gen_statem gains GenStatemName + whereis_machine/send/call/shutdown by name
  (parity with gen_server); the macro gets `Sm::new`.
- Root-exit sweep records `Event::RootSweep { target, trapping }` under
  smarm-trace ("root_sweep shutdown|stopped"): unsupervised leftovers are
  visible rather than silently owned-by-refs.
- Named start() name-clash path stops the spawned actor instead of relying
  on ref drop.

Tests: tests/gen_server_lifetime.rs, tests/gen_statem_lifetime.rs,
tests/root_sweep_trace.rs (feature-gated); three existing tests that used
drop-closes-inbox now use shutdown(). Docs/README/ROADMAP/Deep Dive updated.

tests/root_sweep_trace.rs

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+//! Under `smarm-trace`, every actor the root-exit sweep reaches is recorded
+//! as a `root_sweep` event — the way to *see* unsupervised leftovers. One test
+//! per binary: the trace file is process-global.
+#![cfg(feature = "smarm-trace")]
+
+use smarm::gen_server::{self, GenServer, GenServerCtx};
+use smarm::run;
+
+struct Quiet;
+impl GenServer for Quiet {
+    type Call = ();
+    type Reply = ();
+    type Cast = ();
+    type Info = ();
+    type Timer = ();
+    fn init(&mut self, _: &GenServerCtx<Self>) {}
+    fn handle_call(&mut self, _: ()) {}
+    fn handle_cast(&mut self, _: ()) {}
+}
+
+#[test]
+fn forgotten_server_shows_up_as_root_sweep() {
+    let path = std::env::temp_dir().join(format!("smarm_root_sweep_{}.json", std::process::id()));
+    std::env::set_var("SMARM_TRACE_FILE", &path);
+    run(|| {
+        let srv = gen_server::start(Quiet);
+        srv.call(()).unwrap();
+        drop(srv); // forgotten: nobody supervises it, nobody holds it
+    });
+    let trace = std::fs::read_to_string(&path).expect("trace file written");
+    let _ = std::fs::remove_file(&path);
+    assert!(
+        trace.contains("root_sweep stopped"),
+        "expected a root_sweep line for the non-trapping leftover; got:\n{trace}"
+    );
+}