Add Erlang-style process links so an abnormal death fate-shares across a
link set, with trap_exit to convert that into a message instead.
- Slot.links: Vec<Pid>, bidirectional; reset in all three lifecycle sites.
- Actor.trap: Option<Sender<ExitSignal>>, fresh per spawn (a restarted
child starts un-trapped; no fourth reset site).
- link/unlink free functions on self_pid(); trap_exit() -> Receiver<ExitSignal>
(a dedicated inbox, distinct from the monitor Down channel).
- finalize_actor clears reverse links under the lock (always; keeps the
cascade acyclic), then propagates abnormal deaths post-lock: trapping peer
gets an ExitSignal message and survives, non-trapping peer is request_stop'd.
Normal exit never propagates. Dead-pid link delivers an immediate NoProc
(message if trapping, else request_stop(self) -- never a silent no-op).
- ExitSignal reuses DownReason and carries no panic payload (joiner-only).
Tests in tests/link.rs cover the propagate/trap/normal/dead-pid/unlink cases.
